PRINCIPLES OF
FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS
1. Everyone has the right to belong to the family system, regardless of their actions.
2. Those who came first, came first. We cannot be bigger than anyone who came before us.
3. Any "unresolved" issues committed by, or done to, an ancestor will try to be balanced out by the next generations.
We cannot decide if someone has more or less right to belong in the family system than others. That is an existential law that's bigger than us, and if we interfere with this, we create imbalance and dysfunction.
Who in your family didn't get to belong?
Parents give and children receive, however throughout recent generations most children didn't receive what they needed and many now find themselves parenting their parents, or looking for what they didn't receive in all of the wrong places.
Many children died young and were never spoken of again. There were adoptions, abortions and miscarriages that were too shameful or painful to bear so they child in question just disappeared. Whatever is excluded doesn't disappear, it runs the show in an invisible way. How many of your ancestors didn't get to grieve?
All of our ancestors suffered shame and pain in some form, and as a result had to "look away" to survive. What they looked away from is repeated in the next generations, trying to be seen. Your health issues, relationships, finances, addictions, obstacles, can all be linked back to what someone had to look away from.
In every situation you experience, there are ideas of blame. Someone is a perpetrator and another a victim. This creates a huge imbalance in the system.
In Family Constellations we work to release the idea of blame, and the labels of victim and perpetrator, so that everyone has a place and can stand in it with dignity.
We do this using fast and powerful techniques which can end the repetition of the stories. We follow a clear formula to break identifications and entanglements, so that each person in the system is acknowledged and this brings wholeness and balance back to the system